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IDEAS, HOW-TOS, AND SCENARIOS
to help spark your sex life
The human sexual experience is wider and deeper than the ocean--so vast that if you were to live to be a thousand years old, and you were to do something different in bed every single night for that thousand years, never repeating the same thing twice, you would still not have time to do it all.
Sometimes, though, even the most creative person needs a bit of inspiration. On these pages, you'll find ideas and suggestions to help spark creativity in you sex life. You'll also find tips, tricks, safety information, and fun techniques to help you and your partner experiment and explore. If that sounds interesting to you, read on!
Many of the ideas and scenarios on these pages don't assume any familiarity with any particular techniques, and so are well-suited to people just beginning to explore new territory. Other ideas might be more appealing for people who've already experimented quite a bit.
Some of the ideas here might really turn you on; others might not be your cup of tea. If something appeals to you, try it; if not, leave it alone. Nothing needs to be set in stone; the purpose is to have fun and find out what you like. Experiment!
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Before we get to the good stuff, there are a few things you want to keep in mind:
- Communicate with your partner. Communication is sexy. Really. Talk about your ideas, your fantasies, and your desires. When you experiment, talk with your partner about what you'd like to do before you start. You don't necessarily have to tell him or her exactly what you're planning; in fact, sometimes surprises are fun. But you don't want to do anything your partner hates, either. And talk to your partner afterward, too. Any time you explore new things, some things you try will go well and some things will go not so well. This is all normal and expected; by talking with your partner, you can open new avenues to explore, and learn what really gets both of you going.
- Establish a "safeword." What's that? When you're exploring things like bondage or dominance and submission, it's a code word that you can use to mean "stop. Really. I mean it." You don't want to use a word like "no" or "stop," because sometimes you might want to work a pretend struggle into your fantasy. (I like "aardvark.") If your scene involves gagging your partner, establish another way that that person can say "Enough"--one common solution is for the gagged partner to hold a bell or some other object, and drop it if things get to be too much.
- Keep a few things handy. You want to tie somebody up? Cool, but have some scissors on hand in case you need to get 'em loose in a hurry. A pair of bandage scissors, which have one pointed blade and one blunt blade, can be slipped beneath a rope without risk of cutting the skin, and is especially handy. And make sure you have a key before you try on those handcuffs!
- Pay attention! Use common sense. Don't rush full-tilt into things you haven't tried yet. Take it slow. Check in with your partner from time to time, until you both get familiar with what you're exploring.
- Be cautious about exploring things like bondage with a new partner. Remember, there are evil people in the world. If you're playing with someone you don't know well, let a trusted friend know where you are and what you're doing. Arrange a way to have your friend make sure things are going well.
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The ideas, scenarios, and sexual exploration tips on these pages are divided up into sections. The way these things are sorted out is more or less arbitrary, because these things don't always fall into clear categories. If you think we've missed something, or would like to suggest an idea or scenario for inclusion here, or you find any typos, or whatever, feel free to drop an email to franklin@symtoys.com!
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ALL ABOUT BONDAGE
Tying up your partner, or being tied up, can be a lot of fun. And tying someone to the bed is just the tip of the iceberg; there are a lot of possibilities beyond. This section provides tips, tricks, tutorials, how-tos, plans, and suggestions to get started.
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SENSATION PLAY
Okay, so you have your lover tied down; now what do you do? Sensation play is the exploration of different types of touch; there's plenty of fun stuff here to keep you busy!
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IMPACT PLAY
Spanking, paddling, even flogging...it's more fun than you think. From a gentle caress to a harder smack, there's lots of territory here to explore.
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SCENARIOS 
Role-playing can be a lot of fun. Student/teacher, pirate/captive...the possibilities are endless. Beyond role-playing, there are all sorts of things you can do to spice up your sex life in new and creative ways.
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MISCELLANEOUS
Do-it-yourself projects, such as how to make your own latex catsuit, that don't really fit anywhere else.
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