Bondage 101

"Bondage" is a term for any activity that involves tying your partner or otherwise restraining your partner for pleasure. Many forms of bondage, especially with ropes or chains, can look intimidating at first, and it's common to believe that you can't really be good at bondage if you don't know how to tie knots. Neither one is true!

When most people think of "bondage," the first thing that comes to mind is tying someone to the bedposts. That's one of the simplest ways to do it, but there are a lot more possibilities as well--and, thankfully, you don't need to be any good at tying knots to explore them. In fact, you might not need any rope at all!

Of course, there's more to bondage than tying someone down. Bondage can be thought about in several different ways; "restraint" bondage, where the goal is to prevent someone from moving or restrict someone's range of motion; "stimulation" bondage, which is bondage that doesn't restrict someone's motion but where the ropes or ties press on sensitive areas of the body (such as breasts or genitals) to cause erotic stimulation or arousal; and "suspension," in which a person is bound from an overhead fixture in a way that suspends the body entirely off the floor in a sling or harness of ropes.

When you hear the word "bondage," you probably think of restraint bondage--tying someone's wrists to the bedposts, that sort of thing. Stimulation bondage, on the other hand, is a lot of fun as well, and can sometimes even be done under a person's clothes...which means you can be tied up while you go to work, go shopping, and so on.

Some types of bondage do both--they immobilize a person and also stimulate parts of the body in erotic ways.

When you first start experimenting with bondage, it can seem scary and threatening. There are a number of fun, safe ways you can get your feet wet and explore the idea of bondage without being overwhelmed. Here, you'll find some how-tos and ideas for getting started with tying people up in a relaxed, easy, fun way.


A versatile, fun, and easy-to-use item, bondage tape is a great and non-threatening way to start exploring bondage. While it's not the most secure, it's simple and requires no special skills or equipment, and it offers enough possibilities that even people skilled at other forms of bondage find it a lot of fun.


One problem that people often encounter when they experiment with bondage is not having a four-poster bed. Fear not; even if you have no bedposts to tie someone to, you can still tie someone down to your bed. This explains how.

And once you've tied your partner to the bed, what next? We'll cover that, too!


Easier and quicker than tying with rope, using cuffs of various types is a good way to explore bondage. This section explores different types of cuffs, what they're used for, and how to use them.

The ideas shown here go beyond just tying your lover down or being tied down, and talk about "stimulation bondage." In this section, I'll show you how to tie rope harnesses and offer some other ideas for you to explore.


How to make a basic rope body harness, even if you can't tie any knots.


Incorporating a frog tie, which holds a person on his or her knees, into a basic rope harness. It's simpler than you think, and offers a lot of possibilities for fun.


A breast harness is very easy to make, and looks very good on a female submissive or bottom. It also feels really good.


How to tie a beautiful star-shaped harness that's good for breast bondage, works on men as well, and can be worn under clothes.


How to make a body harness from chain instead of rope.


How to tie someone's arms or legs together, using a beautiful weave that looks complicated but is really quite simple..


Turn a karada rope harness into a strap-on harness as well.

When you're first starting out with bondage, using restraints or rope might seem very intimidating. A lot of people want to start with something softer and less intimidating, For this reason, people sometimes use silk scarves for bondage.

Generally speaking, you should avoid the use of silk scarves or nylon stockings for tying someone up. Silk and nylon can have a tendency to bunch up, especially if someone pulls against it; this may cause the knot to tighten to the point where it becomes almost impossible to untie. Ordinary rope is a much safer choice, and will probably be more comfortable as well.

Any time you experiment with bondage, it's generally a good idea to have a plan about getting that person untied in a hurry if you need to. One good tip is to keep a pair of bandage scissors handy. These scissors, also called "EMT scissors," are designed to remove bandages quickly and safely. They have a sharp blade and a blade with a rounded tip; the rounded blade is designed to be slid underneath a bandage so the bandage can be cut without poking or injuring the person. A good pair of bandage scissors will make short work of rope, bondage tape, and so on, without injuring the bound person. You can find these inexpensively at most drug stores, or find them online here.


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