Sex Ideas and Tips: Scenario: Bound to Please

If you like a little bit of dominance and submission to go with your bondage, this is a scenario you might enjoy.

It works best when you're at home and your partner is away, so you can set things up in advance, and surprise your partner when he or she arrives at the door. You'll want to do a little preparation in advance.

A little D/s with your bondage today?

The first thing you'll want to do is learn to make a "rascal knot," a very simple handcuff tie that you can make easily with a short piece of rope. You don't need much; even a 5' length is plenty, and a 10' length is more than enough.

First, find the center of the rope. Fold the rope in half, then twist it twice. Take the loop, and fold it straight down over the rest of the rope. Then draw the rope up through the loop.

It looks a lot more complicated than it is. It's really pretty straightforward, and only takes a couple of seconds to do. If you try it, you'll see what I mean.

You might also take the opportunity to get things set up in the bedroom. You'll want four cuffs and some appropriate ties; if you don't have a four-poster bed you can affix the ties to, you can check out the first page of the bondage section to get some ideas about how to make some suitable tie-downs. You'll also want to make sure that anything else you might need is in easy reach.

When your partner comes home, greet him or her at the door. Explain that you have a surprise in store, and that tonight, you plan to make sure that your partner pleases you very thoroughly. Slip the two loops of the rascal knot around your partner's wrists and pull the ends of the rope to tighten it.

Push your partner against the wall, give him or her a deep kiss, then look your partner in the eye and say that this evening, you'll be calling all the shots. Pull a blindfold out of your pocket, and place it over his or her eyes.

A rascal knot will tighten if you pull on the rope, so you should take care not to tighten it too much, nor leave it on for extended periods of time. It's a simple knot, but it's not really appropriate for long-term bondage, or for situations where someone will pull or struggle against it. It makes a good lead if there's no resistance involved, but isn't a good way to tie someone down.

Lead your partner by the wrists into the bedroom. When you get there, push him or her down on to the bed. Remove the rascal knot and strip your partner completely naked. Leave the blindfold in place.

When you've removed all of your partner's clothes, press your partner down onto the bed on his or her back and cuff him or her to the bed, using the cuffs you've conveniently arranged beforehand. Explain firmly that your partner is there entirely for your pleasure, and you intend to use every part of his or her body to please yourself.

Talking dirty to your partner, or describing your intentions to your partner, or explaining graphically what you want to do to your partner, can seem awkward, intimidating, or silly at first. We're conditioned from an early age not to talk about sex, especially in graphic terms, and as a result, doing it can be difficult at first. It's common for people to feel flustered or to draw a blank when they start doing this.

Being able to talk openly about any subject at all is an important part of a relationship, both in and out of the bedroom. It's a learned skill; like all learned skills, it may seem awkward in the beginning (remember how awkward it felt the first time you tried to ride a bicycle?), but the awkwardness soon passes. Before long, it'll be second nature to you.

Wen your partner is well and truly strapped down, it's time to make good on your promise. Your partner is now your own personal living sex toy, restrained on the bed and available for your pleasure. What you do next depends on what kind of pleasure you'd like.

If you like savoring the situation and
drawing out your pleasure:

Sit on the bed next to your partner. Run your fingers over his or her body, and tell your partner that he or she is there just to satisfy you, and you intend to use his or her body for your own satisfaction. Explain, in detail, precisely what you intend to do, and how much pleasure it will give you to take possession of your partner's body.

Undress slowly, a bit at a time, while you run your hands teasingly over your partner's body between bits. Don't linger in any particular place; instead, pass your hands and fingertips over your partner's lips, face, nipples, thighs, genitals, chest, legs, and so on.

When you are completely naked, kneel on the bed straddling your partner. Grind against your partner while you explain that you expect him or her to be compliant and available for your own pleasure. Lean down and bring your nipples to your partner's lips, and order him or her to lick and suck on them.

When your captive has suitably demonstrated willingness to obey (and you're good and turned on), straddle his or her face and allow your partner to please you with his or her mouth. Linger for a while, and tell your partner step by step exactly what to do, but don't come just yet.

When you feel you're close to orgasm, climb on top of your partner again, and take him or her vigorously--but make it clear that your partner is NOT allowed to come!

If you prefer fast, hard, down-and-dirty
action right away:

As soon as your partner is thoroughly bound, strip. As you take off your clothes, tell your captive that what you're about to do is strictly for your own pleasure, not theirs.

Get some lube and squeeze it generously between your partner's legs. Tell your partner that their body belongs to you, for you to do with as you see fit--and right now, what you see fit to do is take pleasure from it. Get on the bed, position yourself between your partner's legs or straddling your partner, and take yourself hard and rough.

Tell your partner that he or she is absolutely not permitted to reach orgasm under any circumstances; this is strictly for your benefit. Move your hips quickly, and describe out loud how good you feel and how much you're enjoying the use of your captive's body.

Continue taking your partner this way for as long as you like. If you wish to prolong the fun, you can stop whenever you feel that you're nearing the point of orgasm, calm down for a few minutes, and then start again.

Do not allow your partner to orgasm! If you feel like he or she is getting close, say remind your partner firmly that this is for your pleasure, and stop what you're doing. You may find it helpful to accompany the reminder with a sharp nipple tweak.

Keep this up until you, but not your partner, has reached orgasm.

Once you've satisfied yourself with your partner's body, you can consider whether or not your partner has been accommodating enough to deserve a little pleasure too. Tease your partner with fingers or tongue (or vibrator or sex toy, if you like), kiss and nibble your partner's body, and ask if your partner thinks he or she deserves an orgasm. Most likely, your partner will quite frantically believe that he or she does deserve some pleasure, in which case you can ask them to describe why they think they've earned it. Keep teasing as you ask for details about why your partner should be allowed to come.

Whether or not you decide to give in and let your partner have an orgasm is up to you, but I would suggest that if you do, you make your partner really beg for it...

What you'll need

This scenario requires very little beyond rope and cuffs to restrain your partner. A cuff set is convenient; if you don't have a four-poster bed, you can use the around-the-mattress rope technique described here, or use an under-bed restraint system.

Basic Nylon Rope
25' lengths, available in
white or black
Standard, straightforward nylon rope, which is inexpensive, soft, and strong. 15' and 25' are good working lengths for rope. It's good for basic bondage, and for tying rope harnesses like the one here.

Under-Bed Restraint System
Four 60" nylon under-mattress
straps, one connector strap,
and four nylon cuffs
An inexpensive, easy-to-use, and non-threatening way to explore basic bondage, the under-the-bed restraint system contains everything you need (straps, connecting tie, and a set of four cuffs). This makes a good introduction to light bondage, with quick and easy setup, and requires no knot-tying skills whatsoever. It's also portable--just the thing to throw into the suitcase when you go on vacation. The entire kit is an excellent bargain as far as bondage equipment goes.

Deluxe Cuff Set
Four cuffs with nylon leads and a blindfold in one convenient, inexpensive kit.
This is a very nice, high-quality kit that includes comfortable, durable cuffs that are easy to adjust, and a blindfold that's comfortable even for extended wear. This kit offers greater versatility. An outstanding value for the money.


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